I'm a divorced male in my early 50s. I was faithful to my wife for the 25 years married. She always rejected my romantic advances so I became accustomed to masturbating. My fantasies varied over the years during masturbation and my post divorce real life sexual encounters have been receiving meaningless anonymous oral sex from women and men. It's the only thing that seems to stimulate me to orgasm. Recently, I met the most beautiful, smart, sexy woman and I love her but she does not stimulate me enough to orgasm. I now realize I have completely disassociated sex and love. This is my problem to fix but it certainly affects her. I have stopped receiving anonymous sex but I still masturbate while thinking about it. Can anyone with medical or behavioral knowledge please suggest how I can get back to associating love and intimacy with exciting sex? She is starting to ask, "what's wrong?" and I don't know how to explain it. I really love this woman!