My boyfriend of 2 yrs has ED, which was not a problem for me when he told me. He explained that he has no desires, urges and does not deal with frustration as a result of his condition, he is always "soft" and just hangs there but on a few ocassions I have been able to make him a little hard. (Please forgive my graphic language but I know of no other way to explain this) So please explain to me why a man with such a condition would watch porn alone & sit at his computer and watch women going at it? It just doesn't add up for me in my female brain. I need a valid understanding of this for both our sakes. Thank you.