Having grown up during a different time, and experiencing the shifting of relationships as they have evolved, I find this disappointing as some of those customs I truly preferred. Yet, I can agree that today it is so rare to have especially a young man hold a door as a sign of what was formerly a sign of courtesy we came to expect. I was able to balance the transition to more equality yet still appreciated celebrating the differences between the male and female dance. Within me is a desire to be honored for being who I am, that includes customs such as those of a time of courtesies of those times, especially when it relates to private time. In business, I have no such expectations. Having the experience with offering to pay for both parties in a meal began a slippery slope in one of my relationships as I did not have the tools for myself to have the conversation that this was not going to continue, until it became a point of dissolving the relationship. It gave me cause to wonder if some men feel a burden when financial arrangements all fall to them, as is more and more rare in the younger couples where both share working responsibilities and they do get to make their own negotiations. In reading my own post, I can see this is likely a generational issue for me, and I so admire how today's pairings are navigating the changes.