Something of this nature happened to me. My fiance did it. I did not know until I found the video tape of four different times throughout a four year time span. All while I was completley passed out and snoring.

Do you think he drugged you? I can only imagine how you must feel based on my own feelings and what happened to me was perpetrated by a coworker so I could say to myself that I can't trust people who I don't know well but to be violated by someone close to you must be the worst. The main damage for me came from what he did to me at work. I remained silent for a long while after it happened and the most important thing I have learned from this is to speak up and that the shame for the victims needs to go. Perpetrators use the victim's shame and that allows them to keep on to the next victim without missing a beat.